One Year Since I Quit My Job: What I’ve Learned

Hey guys it's Anthony (Britt's hubby)! It's been some time since I last guest posted but that's going to change in the upcoming weeks as I will be jumpstarting our Blogging Tips section.

You may have read Britt's post when she quit her job to blog full-time and you may have read mine also. Well, it's been a little over a year since I wrote that post. Looking back, it's probably one of the fastest, most rewarding years of my life. It's truly incredible how fast time flies when you're doing something you love and enjoy.

One of my favorite quotes: “Do what you love and you will never have a problem with Monday” I've never dreaded a Monday since working for myself- Mondays are a day we're motivated to be better and do more, and there are some Mondays we sleep in because Sunday night we worked until 4am- we're literally on our own schedule and now I couldn't imagine it any other way.

That's not to stay that all 365+ days have been true bliss… there were ups and downs, along with various challenges.

This is what I learned after a year of working with my wife:

Define and Assign Tasks

We both worked on the blog from the beginning and each had our typical responsibilities… I was the web/photography/video and she was outfits/writing/events. It was very simple in the beginning and worked quite well. There was no issue.

But as we started to grow and once I was working full-time on the blog, the workload increased as well as the number of responsibilities. We didn't realize it at the time and both of us were either trying to do the same thing simultaneously or neither of us got the task done thinking the other person was going to take care of it.

We finally decided after a few frustrated moments, we needed to list all the tasks/responsibilities that were involved in running this blog and define who is in charge of what.

A clear definition of duties between the both of us.

That way if Britt forgot to do something… it would totally be her fault. J/K (but seriously lol)

We started using the app Wunderlist list to write down tasks and we can leave notes to each other within each task, being mobile is hugely important for us so we rarely ever use paper or notepads to write anything down. We need to be able to access what's going on from anywhere and it's a way for us to check in without having to ask each other the status of the task. We just check our app.

It's funny how that one day made everything going forward so much easier because we knew who was in charge of what and we were able to be more productive while also being on the same page.

Make time for alone time

I would question anyone who has ever said they never get annoyed with their spouse. Don't get me wrong, I love my wife and I couldn't imagine life without her. But when you live with someone, have a family, etc. there are going to be times when you get annoyed at each other…it's inevitable.

Now imagine also working with them…seeing each other everyday, all day. There's a higher probability and frequency of just annoying the crap out of each other. It happens lol

We learned rather quickly, that we needed to make time for our individual alone time.

Whether I went to a coffee shop to work alone for a few hours or she went out and had lunch with friends. There was that time of being apart and recharging ourselves. It was extremely important for our personal and work relationship.

Speaking of relationships, that leads me to my next lesson:

Learn how to turn it off

The blog and our personal life are very intertwined. The things we do, food we eat, and the places we travel are shared with you guys via social media and the blog. It's not a typical 8-5 job, it's ongoing.

A majority of our conversations typically revolve around the blog… How can we make it better? What does our audience want to see? What type of value can we offer?

We are very passionate about what we do and wouldn't have it any other way, but sometimes that tends to overtake what's going on within our personal lives. It doesn't leave room to be in the moment.

As we started to travel more, I wanted to photograph and film everything. I got so carried away that I didn't really take the time to enjoy what I was actually seeing or doing. But I enjoy filming, I love making videos so just finding a good balance is important.

I had to learn how to turn it off and enjoy the moment in front of me.

I had to teach myself to first step back and really be in the moment and feel the experience for the first time. Seeing things through a camera lens is quite different than from the naked eye. Now we both take time to see something before we film.

We also don't document our date nights, Britt sometimes takes an outfit photo before we leave but dinner and whatever we do after is just us- and we don't talk work!

Outsource

There will always be work.

There will always be emails, there will always be new ideas to implement, there will always be content to shoot…the list goes on.

You could always be doing more and there are times when Britt and I feel like we haven't done enough.

Being self-employed, you want your business to succeed and I love the quote that says “Entrepreneurs are the crazy people who work 100 hours a week so they don't have to work 40 hours a week for someone else” That's always described our mindset.

We worked a ton to get to the point we're at now. So naturally, completing more work should equal more success right? But that mindset also leaves little room for the important things…such as spending time together watching a movie or going out to dinner with friends. Things we didn't do much of when we first started the blog.

We wanted to figure out, how do we more productive while also having more personal time for ourselves? We outsource.

We hired a full-time assistant, videographer, have our meals delivered via Postmates or Blue Apron and hired a housekeeper for cleaning and laundry to give us more time to be creative and not feel like we have to do everything ourselves. Nothing about our lives are typical and we learned outsourcing daily tasks leaves us more time to be creative and spend time together without work. Once we started outsourcing tasks we were much more productive in the areas that were the true game changers.

No matter how much work is on our plate, I can say we put each other and Jadyn before any of it. I couldn't say that when we were at our other jobs.

Every time I'm at Jadyn's school events in the middle of the day, I always feel so grateful I didn't have to ask someone for time off or use “sick time”, I choose my schedule each day and we haven't missed any of the events at her school because of it. A few months back, Jadyn stayed home from school because of a fever and she was laying between the both of us while we watched a movie all in our PJs. She said, “Wait, is this what you guys do when I go to school? Watch movies??” LOL yeah right, but if we need to take a day and to just hang with her because she's not feeling well then we do. It's those moments that motivate and remind us to not take for granted the life we have because of working for ourselves.

I love the quote from Seth Godin, “Instead of wondering when your next vacation will be, set up a life you don't need to escape from” and pursuing our passion has allowed that life for both Britt and I.

I am always facing new challenges and learning from the lessons they provide. Hopefully from my experiences, you too can identify the lessons in your life and continue to learn and grow. And if there's areas in your life you've been wanting to change- start now! Life is too short to not be living your best life.

– Anthony

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  1. Anthony's mom June 13, 2017 at 6:43 pm

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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  2. Aspasela June 13, 2017 at 6:57 pm

    Love this and that it is coming from your perspective Anthony! You guys are amazing. #goals

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  3. Taima June 13, 2017 at 7:06 pm

    Great Post. Love it. There is definitely a side to blogging that people do not see and it’s the hard work that happens behind the scenes. Thanks for sharing.

    Taima
    @poorinaprivateplane

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  4. Mary-Katherine June 13, 2017 at 7:13 pm

    Such a well-written post! So interesting to hear how you’re using Wunderlist (I just use it for my grocery list lol). Sounds like such a good system!! Also really loved your point about allowing yourself to see something once before filming or photographing it, makes so much sense and I am sure makes a huge difference in your ability to truly enjoy the moment!

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  5. Wendy June 13, 2017 at 8:15 pm

    I love traveling photography, etc, so this is truly inspirational!!! Thank you Britt, Anthony, and Jadyn for sharing a small part of your world with us❤️ love you guys!!

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  6. Robin June 13, 2017 at 8:23 pm

    Love this, Anthony! I admire you and your family — how you treat each other, love each other, prioritize each other. Thanks for sharing your lives with your followers!

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  7. Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog June 13, 2017 at 8:38 pm

    Thank you for sharing your experience. I’ve never been jobless for more than a year, so it’s great to hear about different experiences. You’ve certainly come to a great relationship with organising your time well!

    Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog
    http://charmainenyw.com

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  8. Elizabeth June 13, 2017 at 10:20 pm

    Really enjoyed this post, Anthony! :) Working for yourself can definitely be a challenge, but I really admire the willpower, work ethic, and drive that both you and Brittany have for the blog! That’s why it’s been such a success! Glad to hear that this past year has been one of growth and opportunities! Can’t wait to see more of the blogging tips that will be coming to the blog soon!

    XO, Elizabeth
    http://clothestoyouuu.com/

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  9. Beth June 14, 2017 at 2:59 am

    I love this, it sounds like the dream! You both seem to work together. I agree it’s important to have time away as well to focus on you, especially when you’re with each other 24/7! I cant wait to see what else you create
    http://www.pagesfrombeth.blogspot.com

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  10. Norina June 14, 2017 at 8:34 am

    That sounds so amazing! I would love to live like this. I really don’t like Mondays now but I know there will be times when I’m gonna be excited for my Mondays and starting my work.

    Norina xx

    la-piccola-me.blogspot.com

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  11. Chelsea Balderston June 14, 2017 at 9:25 am

    Love getting to hear from you, Anthony! You’re always so insightful and it’s great to hear the perspective of the blog/Instagram husband. Thanks for sharing. – Chelsea

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    1. Anthony Xavier June 17, 2017 at 11:04 am

      Thanks Chelsea and hope your blog is going well! I’ve been seeing your shots, turning out great!

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  12. Maria June 14, 2017 at 9:45 am

    It’s challenging to find balance and be in the moment but once you practice that muscle it gets easier. Outsourcing definitely helps a lot coming from a biz owner myself. Thanks for sharing! — Maria
    http://savvynista.com

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  13. Karen Farber June 14, 2017 at 9:48 am

    This is such an amazing post! I’m so happy to hear that this blog is allowing you, Brittany, and Jayden to have the life of your dreams. Love that you shared what you’ve learned with us. I’ve learned a lot from this post that I will be applying to my own blog/routine.

    http://www.littleblackshell.com

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    1. Anthony Xavier June 17, 2017 at 11:06 am

      Great to hear Karen and I”m glad I was able to offer some insights for you to incorporate within your own blog!

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  14. Leah June 14, 2017 at 9:53 am

    You two are literally couple/family/life goals! Thanks for sharing such great insight, Anthony!

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  15. Michaela June 14, 2017 at 10:00 am

    Love this so much! You two are my blogging inspo and keep me going! Xo

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  16. Kelsey June 14, 2017 at 10:17 am

    Hey Anthony – do you have a background in business? You seem to have the right vision in always seeking the greater value for your viewers. That will take you so far. You guys have some loyal fans – you should incorporate more meet ups in more cities!

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    1. Anthony Xavier June 17, 2017 at 11:03 am

      Hi Kelsey! I actually do, B.A. in Marketing & Business, then I was halfway done with my MBA before I really started to concentrate my efforts into growing the blog. Thank you for the suggestion, we definitely have that on the list once travels start to slow down.

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  17. oindrila bhar June 14, 2017 at 10:18 am

    Hi Anthony, this blog comes on a day when I am upset with my husband and myself for not being able to manage time for shooting pictures. I know Brittany has a blog on time management but if you could tell me how you managed to shoot pictures while she was working, it would be really helpful. I just can’t seem to find time for shooting pictures as often I would like to. Thanks for the blog, precise and succinct.
    http://www.thediystyle.com

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    1. Anthony Xavier June 17, 2017 at 11:00 am

      Hi Oindrila! It was difficult the first year as we were both working full-time jobs. We would either meet up on our lunch breaks or shoot multiple outfits during the weekends to stock up for the week. Also waking up in the morning and shooting before work. The biggest thing is making it a priority. You need to put in that effort and dedication to be consistent. The first year is all about HUSTLE!

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  18. Raquel C June 14, 2017 at 10:42 am

    I love it!! Looking forward to all the changes in our lives! Thanks for sharing, this really motivates me to continue to push forward with my dreams!

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  19. Shannon June 14, 2017 at 10:45 am

    Anthony – this is a wonderful post & really with some great tips. I haven’t made the leap from my current job (trying to take it one step at a time) before I fly into my venture, but one thing I can attest for is the importance of outsourcing. I recently hired a housekeeper, as well, and it sounds trivial, but it shaves HOURS to focus on the task at hand. You never realize how much tasks like that cost in time until you outsource. Looking forward to your blogging & biz series and I am in LOVE with the insta-course! Cheers! Shannon || http://champagneatshannons.com

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    1. Anthony Xavier June 17, 2017 at 10:56 am

      Hi Shannon! It is crazy and for a while I didn’t want to hire anyone…but it is funny how much time you actually save and use that time wisely somewhere else.

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  20. Chloe June 14, 2017 at 10:50 am

    How many people actually read the blog? I’m just confused how you can afford to hire so many people when you both work on the blog and the Instagram, please don’t take offense to this I just don’t know lots of people who read blogs.

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  21. Arlene June 14, 2017 at 11:28 am

    I really enjoyed your quotes especially the last one by Seth Godin.

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  22. Kim Tuttle June 14, 2017 at 11:31 am

    This is so inspiring and so well written! I love the work you guys do :)

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  23. Alyssa June 14, 2017 at 11:51 am

    I love getting this perspective from you!! Such a great and inspiring read! Thanks for sharing your insight. xx

    http://www.fashionsensored.com

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  24. Katherine June 14, 2017 at 12:37 pm

    Y’all are seriously the cutest couple.

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  25. Vaishali June 14, 2017 at 12:51 pm

    Such a great and inspiring post Anthony. You guyz are awesome and setting goals for people who want to follow their dreams but scared. I am in a full time job and someday I see myself free from same to pursue my dreams. I will surely update you guys when that day comes.
    Love,
    Vaishali
    http://www.vivaciouswish.com

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    1. Anthony Xavier June 17, 2017 at 10:52 am

      Please do Vaishali! It is tough and scary, but I always think to myself…What am I going to regret more on my death bed…trying and possibly failing or never trying at all wondering what could have been?

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  26. Jessica June 14, 2017 at 2:29 pm

    I love this so much <3 This especially speaks to me as I was FINALLY able to leave my 9-5 several months ago to pursue my passions! Now everyday, even Mondays, feel like a weekend!

    http://forblueskies.com

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    1. Anthony Xavier June 17, 2017 at 10:48 am

      That’s so great to hear Jessica, awesome job at following your passions!

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  27. Michelle June 14, 2017 at 3:12 pm

    This is amazing! Me and my fiancé manage my travel /style blog and it is so hard to put down the camera and just enjoy. We’re always working and we definitely need to get better at enjoying our time together more.

    Thanks so much for these tips!
    Michelle
    http://www.mapsandmuses.com

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    1. Anthony Xavier June 17, 2017 at 10:47 am

      Exactly ;)

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  28. Rocio Bogart June 14, 2017 at 8:46 pm

    Soooo inspired by this post. You are so right Anthony! Life is too short!
    Keep up the good work.
    Rocio

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  29. Victoria June 14, 2017 at 10:26 pm

    THANK YOU for this post! lol. I am sending this right now to my boyfriend. He usually takes my pictures and I do the rest for my blog but I guess I want him to be a little more involved in all the process.
    Loved it, thanks Anthony & Britt <3

    xx, Victoria C.

    http://www.airofsimplicity.com

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  30. Gracia Jean Philippe June 15, 2017 at 5:25 am

    Thanks so much for sharing! It’s very cool to hear Anthony’s side of everything. So happy for you guys and your continued success. xx

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  31. Bea June 15, 2017 at 5:37 am

    This is incredible, so inspiring! I absolutely love your work Anthony, your photography skills, so far beyond amazing I hope to be half as good some day. As for Britt, your style, amazing, gorgeous, stunning! Thank you so much for starting this journey because you really are such an inspiration!

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    1. Anthony Xavier June 17, 2017 at 10:45 am

      Aww thank you Bea! I still have a ways to go, but it’s all about practice :)

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  32. Rosa June 15, 2017 at 6:19 am

    These are really great tips, I hope I can grow my blog enough to be able to make a full time career out of it.

    http://ohduckydarling.com

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  33. Bryn Bradsher June 15, 2017 at 7:58 pm

    I love seeing how much you have grown your brand and business! It’s so inspiring! Also, I so appreciate how open and transparent you both are! Congratulations on a year well spent!

    xo Bryn
    http://www.waketonroad.com

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